Monday, March 24, 2014

Anger mismangement


 March 24, 2012
Gone mad
On ne fait point de distinction dans les espèces de colères, bien qu’il y en ait une légère et quasi innocente, qui vient de l’ardeur de la complexion; et une autre très criminelle, qui est à proprement parler la fureur de l’orgueil.  [La Rochefoucauld, Maximes. i.159]
«We make no distinctions between kinds of anger, though one may be slight and innocent, that which arises from a passionate temperament, and another criminal, pride gone mad. »
The first is an inner fire, the second an explosion that blasts the landscape.
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Then there is the anger that set alight by anxiety does not burn at all but bristles with electricity. The anger that springs from anxiety, swells into a stream that rushes, slows to a trickle, seeps underground, and burbles up again; the anger that will become another way of sadness.
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La Rochefoucauld has little to say about sadness, but he knows about self-inflicted wounds as a way to withdraw. 
Les q’on se fait pour sempêcher d’aimer, sont souvent plus cruelles que les rigeurs de ce qu’on aime. [v:369]
«The injuries we inflict on ourselves to keep from falling in love are often more cruel than the cruelties of love itself. »
We injure ourselves in practice for fear of failing in the game. We get ourselves to a nunnery before we can be exposed to “the slings and arrows of outrageous Fortune.” Not for us to “take up arms against a sea of troubles.” 
          And we find we are more injured by our fear than we would have been by the world.  We know better than the world does how to hurt ourselves; and our hurts last longer: the wounds become infected and are slow to heal, if they heal at all. 
          It wasn’t an explosion we needed to worry about at all; it was implosion.
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On the whole, it’s better to remember to take our meds.

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